EQ Leadership Frameworks
Actionable tools to help you lead with emotional intelligence and confidence.
I created these templates for engineering leaders who want to make better decisions, build stronger teams, and grow into impactful, respected high-EQ leaders.
Each resource is something I’ve used myself in real leadership situations.
🧭 Guided Decision Canvas
This 3-column canvas helps your team:
- Align on the real problem
- Compare ideas against shared criteria
- Define success before jumping to solutions
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and use cases available in this newsletter post.
🤝 The LEADS Model
This 5-step model helps you:
- Lead with empathy, not ego
- Make fair, values-based decisions
- Stay calm and curious under pressure
- Create space for team voices and insights
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
💪 The Integrity Filter
This 3-question EQ tool helps you pause before reacting and lead from your values, not your ego or emotion.
Use it during tough decisions, emotional conversations, or moments where you feel pulled to perform instead of lead.
Ask yourself:
- Is this aligned with my core values, or just my current emotion?
- Would I make the same decision if no one ever found out?
- Am I choosing clarity, or avoiding discomfort?
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
🧠 The Projection Pause
The Projection Pause is a 5-question reflection that helps you separate facts from projections and respond with curiosity, not bias. Use it in 1:1s, feedback sessions, or anytime you're tempted to assume someone’s intent or ability.
Ask yourself:
- What was the actual outcome?
- Did I clearly define success?
- What might they be experiencing that I don’t see?
- Are my expectations based on them – or on me?
- How can I ask, not assume?
This framework builds psychological safety and reduces miscommunication—one question at a time.
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
🔄 4R Mistake Loop Framework
Mistakes aren't the end – they’re the beginning of real leadership growth.
The 4R Mistake Loop helps you turn failures into trust-building moments that make you and your team stronger.
- Recognize the mistake with honesty – no denial, no deflection.
- Reflect on the root causes and triggers with curiosity, not blame.
- Respond intentionally to repair the damage and rebuild trust.
- Recalibrate your behavior and expectations for the future.
The best leaders don’t hide mistakes – they model how to grow through them.
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
📝 The Transparency Check-In
A self-reflection tool to help leaders stay honest – even when it’s uncomfortable.
We all like to believe we’re transparent, but in reality, fear, discomfort, or timing often hold us back. This quick 3-question check-in helps you identify when you’re holding back and offers a small step toward more authentic communication.
Use it during tough conversations, stakeholder updates, or team feedback moments to bring clarity without oversharing. It's not about being brutally honest – it’s about being usefully honest.
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
🪞 The Reflection Filter
A quick framework to pause judgment and lead with empathy.
Use this tool when someone triggers a strong reaction in you. These four questions help you shift from assumption to clarity and respond with emotional intelligence.
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
🧱 The SPACE Framework
What to do when your feedback doesn’t land.
You gave feedback the right way – calm, specific, respectful – but it triggered defensiveness or denial.
This 5-step EQ tool helps you stay grounded, preserve trust, and return to the conversation when the time is right.
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
🪜 The Let-Go Ladder
A 5-level framework to help you delegate without losing quality, micromanaging, or burning out.
✅ Move from task control to vision ownership
✅ Build trust without losing oversight
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
🤔 The Leadership Space Audit
A 4-question reflection to help you shift from always having the answer to making space for better ones.
Use this when you feel the pressure to be the expert – but know it’s time to let others shine.
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
🛠 The 3R Detachment Check-In
Feeling emotionally hooked by a situation at work?
Use this 90-second mental reset to return to clarity.
1. Recognize
What am I feeling — and where is it coming from?
Pause. Name the emotion without judgment. Is it about this moment, or something deeper?
2. Reframe
Am I making this about who I am, instead of what I can learn?
Shift from shame to self-compassion. It’s a challenge, not a verdict.
3. Redirect
What’s the next helpful action I can take from a grounded place?
Lead from values, not from ego. Breathe. Move forward intentionally.
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
⚖️ The Anti–Dunning-Kruger Effect Framework
A practical EQ-based tool to help leaders recognize when confidence is outpacing awareness – in themselves, their teams, or their culture.
Use this to:
✅ Reframe overconfidence into reflection
✅ Ask grounding questions in 1:1s
✅ Promote curiosity and humble clarity in team decisions
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
🧩 The Likability Trade-Off Framework
A clarity tool for leaders who want to lead with integrity, not just likability. Use it when you’re facing tough decisions and need to recalibrate your inner compass toward long-term trust.
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
🗣️ Conflict Diffusion Framework
Turn tense moments into trust-building opportunities.
Learn how to stay composed and lead through conflict using the four-part EQ-based model:
Pause. Validate. Reframe. Invite.
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
💼 OWN IT Framework
Communicate hard truths with clarity and emotional intelligence.
This 5-step model helps you deliver tough news from above without over-apologizing, blaming leadership, or losing your team’s trust.
👉 Get the framework here!
Full breakdown and practical examples available in this newsletter post.
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